Letter writer: White men, don’t kill in our name

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Another angry rampage happened [recently] as a young white man walked into a black church in Charleston and sat down politely among members there to study the Bible. Out of nowhere, without notice, he fired away, killing nine there who had welcomed him into their discussion.

I’ve heard that the young man accused black men of raping “our women.” That was a familiar complaint. Another sniper said much the same in California a few years ago, but that killer was mad because women liked other men more than him.

White guys, I’m white. I’ll admit that I’m well above the age of the young white women you are trying to date, but don’t blame the black men. Women make choices on their own. I am pretty sure that more of us are raped by white men than black men. Don’t kill in our name, please.

I’m beginning to think that we have lots of immature white men out there who are insecure in their own sexuality, among other things. We all tend to scapegoat others when really we feel badly about ourselves. Often we will project onto the “other” the evil we try to keep buried within our own shadow.

Most of us in the USA are used to seeing the real power structure within the framework of the white man. This power was his birthright, unjustly so. Today many insecure men, influenced by a system that is racist, try to quell their insecurity by scapegoating people who are different in looks, gender, sexual orientation and race.

This must stop. Get over it, White Man! Women can make up their own minds regarding with whom they want to spend their time. Don’t go out and get yourself a gun so you can shoot a few folks you project to be the blame.

Grow up! Seek therapy for your insecurities. Your birthright has been expanded to include others. Welcome it!

 — Rachael Bliss
Asheville

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21 thoughts on “Letter writer: White men, don’t kill in our name

  1. Ron

    Oh, and sweety, the sniper in Cali was half-Asian. So if you are to go on with your BIGOTED rant, at least get your fact straight, m’kay?

  2. Tracy Rose

    Name-calling doesn’t really advance the discussion here. Please target the ideas, not the people expressing them.

    • NFB

      Since the letter writer lumps all white men into one category this should also be directed at her.

      • Tracy Rose

        I don’t read the letter writer’s comments as being directed at all white men, just the ones she thinks have insecurities that may lead to violence. The name calling I mentioned was in comments (now taken down) that attacked her as a person, not her point of view.

        • NFB

          “he name calling I mentioned was in comments (now taken down) that attacked her as a person, not her point of view.”

          OK. Thanks for the clarification. I did not see those comments.

  3. Ole

    Personally, I think this will lead more white men to kill than they would have done otherwise. Such rampant and badsprited texts is hard to come by.

    I personally would like American white men to come to Europe, but leave those women behind. We don’t want them here.

    • Ole

      I really mean this, white American women don’t deserve their men and counterparts. Truly have they destroyed a country and men.

      • Big Al

        Having recently traveled to Europe (and having once dated a Polish woman) I cannot say that European women are any great improvement on Americans.

        • Ole

          No, they’re the same. Destroyers of nations as usual, with their voting patterns, but were stuck with them.

  4. The Real World

    Oh, I do dream of the day (that will never come) when adults of mature age GRASP when someone is pointing out a subset (insecure men) of a larger group (men). As Tracy Rose noted also.

    The letter writer could not possibly be referring to ALL males; she’d have to have known all of them to include them. Yeessh.
    It really is a major deal because those inclined to infer an absolute are doing it all the time. Which means they are constantly missing valuable ideas being put forth (as well spinning people’s wheels with their insistence that the assertion doesn’t apply to everyone. DUH!)

    Also worth mentioning is how very sensitive most of the male responses have been here. Hhmmm, draw your own conclusions.

    • Rachael Bliss

      I said “many white men,” not all of them. But the ones of any color who are really secure in who they are, are the safe ones. It’s often the insecure men who do the most dangerous acts in attempts to “protect ‘their’ women.”

      • Big Al

        Would you be able to get away with such generalities if they were about groups other than white men? Like “women can’t drive”, “blondes are so dumb”, “redheads are more fun (i.e. promiscuous)”, “brunettes are smarter”. How is it these are sexist, but when ONE white guy writes this silly notion about protecting “our women”, you attach it to an entire demographic in order to APPEAR progressive, tolerant and open-minded.

        Whatever message you hoped to send with this letter got lost in your hypocrisy and bigotry.

      • Ole

        “Really secure in who they are”. I really dislike such nonsens. That’s an empty sentence, without any form of reason and common sens. To have anxiety has nothing to do with being “insecure of who you are”. It has to do with having something to be scared of. When a nation finds out it’s very smart to replace a population with another, people are going to get anxius about the future. When a group (working class white men) becomes a wipping bag of a political class, the progressives, you are going to get anxius. When you have some stupid women not able to recognice danger, you get anxius. When they really have no emathy for you, you will get anxius.

        I know we in Europe a removing the progressive from power in the next few years, I really dubt they’ll be able to get some votes. And I hope they’ll let the American whites (but not the upper class progressives come) and American white women. Because you vote your nation and people to death.

        • bsummers

          When a nation finds out it’s very smart to replace a population with another, people are going to get anxius about the future. When a group (working class white men) becomes a wipping bag of a political class, the progressives, you are going to get anxius. When you have some stupid women not able to recognice danger, you get anxius. When they really have no emathy for you, you will get anxius.

          When you get a new computer you will get spell check.

          • bsummers

            Assuming I believe that, and I don’t necessarily, it’s still curious how your xenophobia blurs into “vote conservative or die”.

  5. John

    Rachael – you’re right that white men are behaving badly – and I’m a white man. You have a large subset of the population who is seeing diminished power and diminished earnings. And this is real – how can I earn for my family and provide for my woman and children? It pisses me off that people exploit white male anxiety – oh it’s those black people, immigrants, gay people, non-Christians… Anxiety about finding a woman – it’s just a symbol too. The real issue is where are the $20 an hour jobs? Where is a political process that isn’t bought and sold by money men?

    • Jim

      If anyone with half a brain doesn’t understand that importing cheap and illegal labor into the USA is what’s killing pay then they are completely devoid of cause and effect. On top of a monetary system that simply prints us into poverty in order to promote central government regulation. And the underlying cause is a nation that knows more about pop culture and entertainers than the government and civics.

      • The Real World

        Jim …. +100…….you nailed it. But it likely fell on a lot of deaf ears.

        I’ll add that there are way too many young-ish people who are wasting their own time expecting others to create optimal conditions for their lives. What the h_ll! And who taught them that that’s the way the world works? An epic fail for those who taught them.

        It never has worked that way. Like everywhere else in the world….you want a better job, lifestyle options, resources, weather, whatever it is…..you move where those choices are available.

        Geez, wake up and pay attention to what is happening in Greece and China right now. It’s serious stuff and when similar issues hit our shores (and they will), it’s going to be very scary and damaging. Tip of the day: spend some time reading up on the term: bail-in. The internet is your friend.

  6. c

    Okay, so one white guy goes crazy and you decide to lecture white men? Are you going to lecture women on their promiscuity when a female teacher has sex with her students? Which happens a lot more than racially charged church massacres. Or people of other races when one of “theirs” does a violent act? Thinking that something as crazy as what Mr. Psychopath did at this church is worthy of a reasonable discussion on race is as crazy as thinking the Sandy Hook massacre is a legitimate reason to lecture people on not forgetting to take their anti-depressants.

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