The recent “Daily Deed” cover article [“Doin’ It Daily,” Aug. 6] highlighting a new marriage guide about sex, intimacy and navigating monogamy really has me confused. I know life in Asheville is a bit different from life in the tamer, more conventional Charlotte to our south—where the author and her husband live—but are things really so different even between the sheets?
Here in Asheville, most of my married and single girlfriends and I find that our availability and willingness is not the issue. Our supposedly “deprived” men are the ones who may need to consider making the pledge to us to be available for sex every night of the year.
I think that the author is either a bit delusional for believing that she has made the ultimate sacrifice to offer herself up to the sex gods every night, or else she is way more brilliant than my girlfriends and I for framing the issue in such a way that her husband is trapped into this diabolical scheme of hers to have just what she wants for one year.
I do appreciate the ultimate lessons that come from this challenge the author proposed for herself and her husband. Regardless of which partner is more reluctant to connect in bed, it must have helped the marriage considerably.
— Margot Vise