Edgy Mama: What kind of Asheville Mom are you?

Local folk musician Billy Jonas sings a brilliant call-and-response song called “What Kind of Cat Are You?” If you live in Asheville and have kids under the age of 10, you probably know it by heart. “What kind of cat is a really big disaster?” “Catastrophe!”

In homage to Jonas, whom my kidlings think is Elvis, I offer my “What kind of mom are you?” quiz. Kind of a weak homage, really, because the quiz doesn’t incorporate the letters “mom” in the answers. I’m not that clever.

Because most of the moms I know live in Asheville, I’ve skewed the answers to represent my mom friends and acquaintances. At least they were my friends yesterday.

So, what kind of Asheville mom are you? Take the quiz and find out.

1) On a typical school day, do you:

A. Pack your children’s lunchboxes with organic produce and hormone-free, “happy until they’re dead” animal products?
B. Throw leftovers in the lunchbox and hope you’re covering three of six food-pyramid categories?
C. Forget to pack lunch and pick up a bagel sandwich at Bruegger’s on the way to school?

2) Do you have a consistent bedtime routine for your kids?

A. Bedtime Nazi here — bath, reading, hugs, then lights out at 8:15 every night without fail.
B. Yes, but I’m flexible if there’s an event that runs past bedtime on a non-school night. Like I’m late with dinner or something.

When the kid falls asleep on the sofa, I carry him upstairs to his own bed … most nights.

3) How many extracurricular activities do your kids engage in per week?

A. In addition to every day and weekend sports events? I don’t understand the question.
B. One or two after-school activities per week, but I try to keep our weekends loose.
C. My child needs to play outside. Plus, I’m minimizing my carbon footprint by not driving him all over the place.

4) How many kids do you have?

A. Three or more. The more, the merrier.
B. Two. Man-on-man defense.
C. One. Dude, carbon footprint, remember?

5) How many pets/extended family members/random entities live with you?

A.E ach child has his/her own pet, which he/she takes care of himself/herself. My mom lives in the mother-in-law suite, and the nanny has the basement apartment.
B. We have two cats and a dog, plus the occasional short-lived amphibian, and my spouse just gave his mother a key to our house. Arrrgh!
C. I think there’s a cat living in the basement. Do fleas count?

6) What do you once the children are asleep at night?

A. I tie up any loose ends in my home office, pack lunchboxes and backpacks for the morning, then go to bed.
B. I fold one third of the continuously-growing laundry mountain, then have a glass of wine and unwind with a book or in front of the television.
C. I make a path through the toys to the fridge to get more beers for my friends, then hang and party until the kid falls asleep on the sofa.


If you consistently picked A: You are a high-functioning, organized, often competitive, mom. Your children are the center of your world, and they know it. Later, when they’re in rehab, you can remind them of all the sacrifices you made for them.

If you consistently picked B: You have the potential to be an “A” mom, but your hormonal levels and spending half your day breaking up fights between your kids often does you in. But you’re the “Little Engine That Could” — you never stop trying.

If you consistently picked C: You’re a slacker mom. Your child will be remarkably flexible and resilient, if he stays out of prison. At least you’re saving the earth for his children.

If you picked two As, two Bs and two Cs: Call me and I’ll give you my therapist’s phone number.

— Anne Fitten Glenn is a freelance writer and photographer in Asheville. She blogs about a number of topics, including parenthood, at www.edgymama.com.


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12 thoughts on “Edgy Mama: What kind of Asheville Mom are you?

  1. Rio

    Absolutely on mark! Amazing how over the last 13 years I have varied between all three!

  2. Kate

    AF, You’re right on the money! Can you do a follow-up quiz for those of use who try to figure out what to make for dinner between 5:30 (when we leave the office) and pick-up at after-school at 6:00? Bonus points for not having been to the grocery store in more than 5 days!

  3. Kate,
    That’s when you need to borrow my cell phone. I have four, yes, four pizza delivery and pick-up restaurants on speed dial.

  4. HMS

    LOL! I’m w/ you Libs & Kate…

    I really relate more to the B & C mom, but in my mind I’m really an A mom!! Just like in my mind I look like a Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Model in my bathing suit ~ then I see a picture-UGH! Not so much. :(

  5. phaedra almajid


    I love your quiz! I am a freelance write in Qatar and would like to know if we could reprint your brillant quiz. We are doing a piece on competitive mother’s and this would be perfect!

  6. Freelance Writing Guide

    I don’t have any kids, but loved this post anyway. Kind of like therapy for mums.

  7. duch

    this was too funny! My children are grown and I’m a wanna-b g’ma but no luck yet…keep this sort of thing up! We all need it and it is soooo much fun to read what you young folks are all doing. I love that you’re not taking things too seriously.

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