In response to the overwhelming judgments of transgendered people by “normal,” aka “cis” people, I do believe that these judgments are a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be transgendered.
I am writing this as a cis female who has known few transgendered people and has educated myself on the deeper stories of who they are. One very notable commonality I have found is that the parents of these folks will tell you that their children have always identified as the opposite sex since they were toddlers.
Now this is not the case 100 percent of the time, as I understand it, but it is a very common trait in transgendered people. They shun the clothing and hairdos and toys of their birth sex, and only seem happy when engaged in activities the opposite sex would enjoy, and when they look in the mirror and can see the girl that they feel they are to the core, even though they were born male. Or vice versa.
This deeply affected me when I learned that this starts for people when they are very young, at their first sense of awareness of self. And just to be clear, I do not think this invalidates people who realize they identify as the opposite sex later in adolescence. I think it takes a long time to know yourself and find your own path sometimes.
And I don’t believe anyone would choose to be transgendered just to be contrary to society. It looks to me like one of the hardest roads a person could walk, and all the hatred and misunderstanding certainly doesn’t help.
Maybe we as a society could open our hearts to these people as being our fellow human beings, regardless of gender identity.
— Lauren Loiacono