This is my response to the apology issued by the owners of Waking Life Espresso after they were exposed for creating a blog, Twitter [account] and podcast designed to essentially celebrate being sexual predators. Their goal was to sleep with as many women as possible and later review those personal sexual encounters in lewd detail.
I have chosen the following excerpt from Jared [Rutledge’s] blog because, although it is infuriating, it is still low on the scale of misogyny and vulgarity compared to the rest of his posts.
Here is a direct quote from Jared Rutledge’s blog (the [co-] owner of Waking Life) in reference to the struggle of finding a perfect woman:
“The biggest barrier to commitment with most of these women wasn’t their sexuality or their femininity. It was either that I didn’t find them beautiful enough or interesting enough to warrant commitment. Many of these girls could help themselves immensely by reading a few classic novels and working out a little. But they get attention regardless, so the motivation to better themselves isn’t present. It’s unfortunate. That said, I think it’s possible to find value. If you’re willing to hang around in the 6-7 range looks-wise, you can lock down a young, intelligent, girl who will make a good partner and mother. The question is really how much you’re willing to compromise where beauty is concerned.”
The above shows [he] is a standard (and confused) chauvinist who believes a woman’s only value is beauty and sexual desirability while still claiming that her intelligence and interestingness are somewhere on the priority list. Clearly they are not, since those qualities would “be a compromise where beauty is concerned.”
Not only did he have a Twitter [account] and a podcast (run with the other co-owner of Waking Life) talking about how to exploit women, they also went into detail about each encounter, rating women on their attractiveness, how good they were in bed, and made cruel remarks about their bodies and personalities.
That wouldn’t even be the worst of it. Along with old-school sexist ideas of “femininity,” it is clear they openly believe that the ideal woman is submissive in bed, with disgusting violent descriptions of “submissiveness” that go beyond standard, playful “rough” sex. In one archived Twitter quote, one of them describes hitting a woman with a belt and “choking her with my D” along with other references to sexual violence.
Now, here is why I also think that they are confused chauvinists: Among their disgusting, shaming reviews of women, they also kept complaining they weren’t smart enough. Another direct Twitter quote was that they believed “95 percent of women are just f**ksocks,” along with complaints about how stupid they all are.
As a relatively smart woman myself, I’d like to assume that the smart, empowered women they never added to their tally didn’t sleep with them because of some major red flags which become apparent in such men, even when they think they are cleverly hiding their misogyny.
As for the good, smart women they did charm and connive into having sex, well, if those women didn’t already regret it, they certainly will once it comes out that [they] publicly reviewed them in a crass and demeaning way.
Who knows the emotional wreckage they left behind in with their selfish, perverse endeavors.
Women are intelligent, valuable human beings with a greater purpose than existing to visually and sexually please men. We have skills, talents, ideas, dreams, feelings, desires and personalities — all of which [they] are discounting by [their] actions and subsequent commentary.
Good luck with your apology … It is not just that you “said mean things.” You clearly showed that you think women are just flesh-objects with a few useful orifices and that those flesh-objects better keep looking good in order to remain valuable for men like yourselves.
It was also clear in your apology that the shame you feel is in response to being caught. There is nothing in it that suggests that you understand that your comments go far beyond the standard complaints about dating. You fundamentally do not understand what you are being shamed for.
There is difference between shame of exposure and actually learning a lesson. I genuinely hope you stop reading garbage like The Game and Red Pill and learn that women are humans and not something to be hunted and categorized. Their beauty, whether natural or achieved by working out and a lot of makeup, is irrelevant. Period. You can be attracted to women, (duh, all men are), without it being a dehumanizing process.
We are all mad at you as a community of men and women, because we agree this is not an acceptable way to view women, nor is it an acceptable way to treat women, and we do not want someone like you as a prominent business owner within our community.
— Cynthia Brodowska